Have you ever been accused of bigotry for your support of traditional marriage?

Yeah, me too.

In fact it was that very accusation in 2012, from both Facebook friends and the media at large that finally made this non-confrontational pastor’s wife… snap. That’s when it became clear to me that no matter how many gay friends you have or how well-reasoned your arguments or how compelling your own lived experience, if you didn’t support gay marriage you were the equivalent of a racist or a Nazi. As a woman who is very close to her mother and her mother’s partner, and who also recognized the irreplaceable value of my father’s presence in my life, I knew that there was no conflict between loving your gay family and friends and supporting traditional marriage.