I was having dinner with some new friends recently and I had just explained what I do for a living when one young man threw out a general question. “What advice would you give to someone who wants to be a better communicator with people they are around every day?” Surprisingly, even to myself, I gave him an immediate answer. Good communication starts with what’s inside you. If you want to speak and communicate respect, it starts with what you think and feel about people. You need to actually have respect for them. Winsome and thoughtful communication begins with what you say in your heart and mind, so start listening to what you say to yourself and to those closest to you. If you don’t like what you hear, change that first.